a comic about gender, sexuality, thinking outside the box, relationships, pregnancy, parenting, and two bad dogs.
024 - Welcome to Provincetown!
sweet p and i will be on vacation from 5/23 - 6/3. one of our stops is provincetown for women’s week this weekend. i highly suggest visiting this little town at least once in your life for some delicious lobster and good, queer fun.
and, provided tumblr doesn’t continue to mess up everything in the world with the queue, the comic should go on as normal while we are gone! leave me some love to come back to, because this is our last hoorah before we start trying to become parents and we have a lot waiting for us when we return.
-jaybird
background image from pinkchoice.com
022 - Fertilitea
sorry it’s late tonight, we’re recovering from camping in canada this weekend and, as illustrated above, this is getting pretty busy and stressful. love the response to the last page, thanks to everyone that reblogged it and hello to new followers!
-jaybird
021 - Parental Pronouns
batman is badass enough to transcend gender even while having the word “man” built into his name.
-jaybird
![020 - Known Donor Clinic
we first heard about the known donor registry in an article in newsweek last fall. in a nutshell, it’s a social networking site for people looking for sperm donors and people that want to donate sperm. the article focused a bit on people who derive sexual pleasure from it, but it was made clear that it was full of people who just want to help people that want children but cannot conceive naturally [especially “same-sex” uterus-holding couples] and do not want to spend the money at a sperm bank, which also oftentimes discriminates and screens out potential donors for unnecessary reasons.
the website is a wealth of information and we got some valuable resources from it. however, it isn’t as active as i would’ve believed after such media coverage. i love the idea and have directed plenty of people with questions to it, but we never found any potential donors in our area that were still active and were interested in donating in ways other than “natural insemination”.
i encourage all of you to get the word out. if you are interested in helping people like us in the future, i encourage you to create a profile there to let them know you are willing to donate. it doesn’t require upkeep beyond replying to messages people send to you and really helps complicated situations like the ones we are going through. i would love to see this site more active and think it has the potential to help many more people. today’s page is not meant to be a criticism, but i hope it inspires someone to check it out.
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020 - Known Donor Clinic
we first heard about the known donor registry in an article in newsweek last fall. in a nutshell, it’s a social networking site for people looking for sperm donors and people that want to donate sperm. the article focused a bit on people who derive sexual pleasure from it, but it was made clear that it was full of people who just want to help people that want children but cannot conceive naturally [especially “same-sex” uterus-holding couples] and do not want to spend the money at a sperm bank, which also oftentimes discriminates and screens out potential donors for unnecessary reasons.
the website is a wealth of information and we got some valuable resources from it. however, it isn’t as active as i would’ve believed after such media coverage. i love the idea and have directed plenty of people with questions to it, but we never found any potential donors in our area that were still active and were interested in donating in ways other than “natural insemination”.
i encourage all of you to get the word out. if you are interested in helping people like us in the future, i encourage you to create a profile there to let them know you are willing to donate. it doesn’t require upkeep beyond replying to messages people send to you and really helps complicated situations like the ones we are going through. i would love to see this site more active and think it has the potential to help many more people. today’s page is not meant to be a criticism, but i hope it inspires someone to check it out.
-jaybird
i love all the support i have gotten from this comic, and i’m glad i’ve been able to use it to break out of a three-year art block and express myself.
today, for the day of silence, i’m going to take my silence back from the people who have had too much control over my life until now. because i have wasted too much energy on people who have never thought twice about how they have hurt me. because their acquaintances are hypocrites that advocate for all types of social justice while associating with unrepentant bullies. because they never had the courage to say to my face all the things they said behind my back. because this type of silence has kept me from forming too many meaningful relationships with people who are just dying to show me how decent members of society interact with each other.
because they will never apologize or remember, and it’s time i forget as well.
-jaybird
017 - Ask a Stupid Question…
this is by far the most-asked question of us, and it only takes about a second of consideration to realize, as well-meaning as you may be, how stupid and intrusive you just sounded.
usually, we just deadpan, “we both are”, which is equally as effective.
-jaybird
ps - the poorly-thought-out word choice sweet p used in her question was the conscious decision to say the word “bayleigh maddysin” out loud.
pps - we might’ve been watching too many episodes of “jon and kate plus eight” as this comic was being drawn.
016 - Natural Born Children
due to my excitement about this comic and… you know, the huge life undertaking we are going through that this comic is about, we’ve begun talking to people about our plans. reactions are a little different than most excited soon-to-be parents would expect.
-jaybird
